Sexuality, Sacred Marriage & The Great Rite
Among the most vocal and studied members of Trinitarian Wicca, are a wide variety of individuals from all walks of life, and we are open and tolerant about sexuality: asexual, bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, or polyamorous. Sensuality and sexuality are a part of life, love, and ritual. The means by which anyone chooses to celebrate their own personal desires is no one's concern but their own. "An' it harm none" is a rule for all Wiccans, so as long as all individuals involved are consenting adults and no laws of the land are broken, Trinitarians are a liberal and accepting tradition.
The stigma of sex being evil and dirty was singularly THE largest and most effective political power move the Vatican / Roman Catholic Church pulled on the entire world. The Early Church in Rome was so cruel they even trapped their nuns and priests in an unnatural sexless world of craziness, leading to sexual perversions manifesting in very unhealthy ways through out the ages! When can you best manipulate a human? When they are scared, taken out of their comfort zone (such as cultural paganism) - when people are frustrated, either financially or sexually.
Trinitarian Wiccans are not Bible oriented when it comes to ritual and we can't seem to make that clear enough to the public. We do approach Deity as polytheists, and our relationship with the Trinity is actually Goddess-inclusive Social Trinitarianism, embracing Tritheism. Yes, we support hieros gamos or the sacred marriage. I don't know if most people just full-on missed out on the sensuality of the Song of Solomon or what! That is some serious Biblical porn:
"How beautiful are thy feet with Sandals! The joints of thy thighs are like jewels. The work of the hands of a Craftsman. Thy Naval is like round goblet which wanteth not liquor. Thy Belly is like wheat set about with lilies. Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are Twins."
"Thy Neck is a Tower of Ivory. Thine Eyes are like glistening Pools. How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! Thy stature is like a palm tree, and thy breast clusters of grapes. In my thoughts, I will go up to the palm tree, and I will take hold of the boughs thereof: And thy breasts shall be as Clusters of the Vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples; and the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my Beloved, That goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to Speak."
UHM ... we have breasts and mouths going down sweetly on sleeping lips causing them to speak! It's in the Bible and it's written beautifully, but we all know what this is saying!
Jesus was Jewish. Jewish men and women married early. There is great controversy about whether the wedding at Cana was the actual wedding of Jesus and Mary of Magdala; their secret wedding may have been very secret, but was this wedding theirs? we do know that it was the husband's family to provide the wedding party catering and the burden of expense. We do know the servants of the house responded to both Mother Mary & Jesus. Jesus calls His Mother Mary "woman," which he would have not called her if He was not married. After the resurrection, but before he ascends, Mary Magdalene calls to Jesus using the term "Rabboni" which means teacher. A woman was not allowed to touch a male in public at the time and in that culture.
However, when Mary Magdalene anointed the feet of Jesus with spikenard and wiped the oil into his feet with her hair, she was in fact initiating the "Sacred Marriage," or the hieros gamos ritual. It is a very sensual ordeal between two humans who act as proxies for the God and the Goddess. In those days, the wife, due to Jewish law and tradition, could have only done it. Those on looking were shocked and upset but Jesus assured them things were fine. In reality, this was a very sexual act. Jesus was wet an slick with oil, which Mary's hair was no doubt sensually covered in. To anoint in such a way, Mary Magdalene would actually be somewhat writhing at Jesus' feet ... and he did not mind, or he would have told her to stop.
In Trinitarian Wicca, we exercise our own Hieros Gamos ritual when we observe the Great Rite. We have used the bride and the groom candle lighting the pillar candle of Divine Unity. The new rituals offer a ritual called "The Chalice and the Blade" as a Great Rite symbol of Divine Unity, likewise embracing the Grail mysteries surrounding Mary Magdalene and the Holy Grail. The chalice itself is the feminine sex and the blade the masculine sex. The wine doubles as the power of the female blood in menses and the blood of Jesus spilled on the cross and according to legend caught in the chalice. Trinitarian Wiccans have multiple representations of Sacred Union in the Wedding Chamber and we feel that we tastefully take the true meaning of the Divine Sensuality into ourselves when we perform the act. We do not forsake the ritual nor do we hide from the true meaning.